Cry Later…
Cry Later…
“Hey, come see me in my office…” You know the statement. That’s the classic one that makes your stomach drop. The one where you immediately review the last 2 weeks of your life of all the things you may have done to cause this obvious ass chewing you are about to receive.
Most of the time, when this happens, you are going to be surprised. Maybe shocked, or usually completely blindsided by what the issue is. It is such an infuriating thing. People don’t like to talk to us, “man to man.” They don’t want to approach us about things and be honest. I wish I understood why this is, but I just don’t. Some have said it is like their experience at home. They don’t want to address their wives over things because of the wife’s reaction, so they assume we are going to bite their head off in the same manner. I found myself in closed door meetings with a company officer and Human Resources with a notepad far more often than any man, over the smallest of things. Things that could have easily been handled over coffee at the table, or just a chat around the corner after the call with the officer.
Regardless if the issue presented to you is accurate or not, your reaction is what will make it break you. Whether you did some silly stuff, and you completely deserve this chew, or this is some complaint over something ridiculous, out of left field, your reaction is EVERYTHING. I found that as time went on, the unfairness of this really got to me, soI became angry and defensive far more quickly than I should have. As women, we are human and we sometimes cry. This is not the time to cry. You will want to! Even if it's an angry cry, emotions naturally come out. Try your best not to do this. Save face as much as you can. Compose yourself, bite your tongue, and move on. Once you are alone, you can let ‘er rip! Call your spouse, call your support system, scream in your pillow, whatever you need to do… Just don’t let them see you cry. Many are waiting for this weakness to show and are ready and willing to pounce all over this, and believe me, you don’t want that. A negative perception of you will latch on to your coat tail like a moth to a flame and will never let go.
Always stay strong, always stand your ground, and never ever let someone’s opinion of you get inside your head and make you think anything different than the badass that you are!
STRIVE ON, NEVER QUIT